In the changing times, womens' and mens' roles are also becoming confused. With the advent of the pill, and other social changes, women no longer need men in the same way as they did 40 or 50 years ago.
Women are becoming more masculine, and men are becoming more feminine. The result is that many of the men I see are in relationships where their partner wants them to be the "male", and at the same time are emasculating them.This confusion stems from the fact that despite changes in society, women and men are per-programmed by evolution over millions of years to fulfill certain roles, and evolution knows nothing about political correctness.
What men and women who come to see me often need, is an understanding of the male female dynamics, so that they can take their place in the relationship in becoming a working partnership.
Understanding the unconscious and conscious forces that drives a woman is key to adopting and fulfilling their own nature as a man. And understanding the driving forces that drives a man is key to adopting and fulfilling their nature as a woman.
And in turn the most advanced men and women are on the edge of conscious awareness and willingness to not only allow but help and encourage their partner's fulfill their role, working together.
It is a positive relationship cycle which creates and increases natural attraction. Understanding this gets rid of any confusion, and gives each person real power - by inviting them to begin with giving.
Women who ask their partner to lead whilst emasculating them at the same time, effectively destroy much of what can be an otherwise great or really good relationship.
As well as confusion, this "new age" has also brought us the importance of individual fulfillment and self-realization. This is probably one of the greatest benefits of living in this time for both men and women.
But confusion about male-female dynamics on both sides of the relationship is literally destroying many relationships, and making many relationships much more painful than they ever need be.
And as this confusion is generational - as therapists we are now seeing the second generation effects of this loss of male-female dynamics in relationship.
Relationship Coaching teaches and coaches men and women to understand and implement really healthy relationship dynamics, and so empowers a couple to move from an emotionally turbulent relationship to an emotionally secure and sustainable partnership.
Couple counselling and relationship coaching can absolutely help with this process.
In fact, for any partnership to work it is obvious it takes two. And if when they come to see us, if the dynamics of the relationship have been ongoing for a long time - perhaps years, where the woman is acting more masculine whilst at the same time asking for her man to be a leader in the relationship - then a woman's transition to an equal partner with her man can be greatly enhanced in relationship coaching.
Equally if this has been going on for some time - men who are coached in relationship dynamics are taught how to fulfill their nature, which in turn enhances their role. Which is part of making the relationship dynamic run so much more creatively and smoothly.
Coaching is a process where both clients model excellence in the coaching session - and so have a living experience and example of healthy dynamics they can model and take out and implement into their lives.
If perhaps you are already beginning to imagine a way forwards between you and your partner as you are reading this, where you can see how you would like your partner to fulfill their role - and begin to lead in your own role through giving and working as a team in creating positive relationship cycles together where you both generate attraction by being attractive, love by loving, compassion by being compassionate, sexual passion by being sexually passionate, and you dare to risk by making the first move...if you both come to this decision, then real magic can happen.
If you would like relationship coaching and couple counselling please phone 0800 024 8647 or 07960 214 336.
THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS International Relationship Experts John Donlon and Linda Connors have over 30 experience between them. They offer powerful and life changing relationship couple counselling and personal development programmes. They work with individuals and couples in the UK, America, Europe and Australia. If you are in relationship crisis are ready to take the first step into saving your relationship you can contact us on 0800 024 86 47.
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