It is not our purpose to become each other or to change the other into yourself.
It is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honour them for who they are with all their strengths, weaknesses, amazing qualities and gifts!
I was walking around yesterday in some shops and noticed men and women running around buying Valentine's Day gifts and cards. I felt the pressure of some of men as they searched intently for the right card for their partner.
Valentine's Day doesn't have to be filled with pressure or buying commercialised products or going out for a romantic candle lit meal . Don't get me wrong those things are wonderful but it's also important to show your partner how much you love them, by your words, thoughts and actions - and not just on Valentine's Day but on each and every day.
It's so easy to get caught up in life, the stresses, the strains that at times the relationship is taken for granted and becomes routine.
Each day take time out to do something for your partner. Love isn't just about making huge gestures - it's also the wonderful small thoughts and actions. Make your partner a cup of coffee in bed before they get up, send them a loving text during the day, massage their feet, cuddle when you are watching TV, place a little note of love in their lunch box, send out some loving thoughts to them during the day or cook their favourite dinner as a surprise. Also allow yourself to receive your partners thoughts, words and actions as well.
True meaning of Valentine's Day
There are many folk law or Christian beliefs surrounding the meaning of Valentine's Day. However, I like to think about Valentine's Day as being a day of feeling blessed and reflecting upon your relationship and appreciating your partner for their strengths, weaknesses, love, kindness, passion and their many wonderful gifts they share with the world.
Then taking this awareness, love and understanding and living it each day as love and kindness exists on each and every day not just on Valentine's Day.
But my relationship isn't working
Valentine's Day can also be difficult for some couples if their relationship isn't working or facing issues.
This is when the Heart of Relationships can help.
We are leaders in the field of relationships and we have helped many couples though sex therapy, relationship coaching, couple and marriage counselling to building the foundations to resolve conflicts, create healing within the relationship and working together to create a loving and compelling partnership and future together.
John is a couple counsellor, relationship coach and marriage counsellor and I am a sex therapist and intimacy expert. Although we work separately at times some couples want to work with us both through a process of duo-counselling so they can experience the dynamics of a male and female therapist together in the one sessions - we both offer our own thoughts, insights and understanding..
You next step
If you are ready to start a wonderful journey of self discovery, healing, empowerment and love we would love to hear from you and offer our support, guidance and help you to put your heart back in your relationship. To speak to us or to book your appointment for couple counselling in London please 075 3421 3557.
THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS International Relationship Experts John Donlon and Linda Connors have over 30 experience between them. They offer powerful and life changing relationship couple counselling and personal development programmes. They work with individuals and couples in the UK, America, Europe and Australia. If you are in relationship crisis are ready to take the first step into saving your relationship you can contact us on 0800 024 86 47.
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