Transform your life and relationship

Too often couples argue about what was said, and act as the judge and jury for the other person's mistakes - without focusing on what their partner would like to say now.

People make mistakes. But they don't have to stay mistakes. And especially mistakes do not have to prevent us from going to a much better place now.

When couples argue about the past, and their differing take on the same event, where one person is blaming another - or they both start blaming each other - I stop them.

They are often not ready for this sudden pause in the middle of something getting heated. This brings a calm into the room.

And then I say, "OK. So you said this. And you took it like this. And you're arguing about who is right and wrong." Then I turn to the accused person, I look them in the eye, and say, "But what would you like to say now? What do you truly mean? What would you really like your partner to hear in this moment?" 

Invariably what comes out, is something calm, clear, gentler, and with the force of meaning from their heart.

That is a precious moment.

When they pause their stories, and come into the present moment, they rework their past experience, with a new calm. They approach things in a more considered, reflective way. This is where they can draw up wisdom and truth from the well-spring within them, and have it land right here in the room, in this beatiful collective energy. They remodel their experiences. Creating something precious, in this energetic meeting place, this newly forming, co-created landscape of their heart.

If you'd like to redo your past and open the door of the present, to create a different way of being, where things are lighter, and change the course of your relationship and your life, call John, on 0795 412 9046.