Self-Led Couples' Therapy
                                           A safe, transformative space for partners ready to grow—together.

Over twelve structured, experiential weeks, you and your partner will engage in real-time relational work that helps you:

• Catch protectors in the moment—and practice ways to unblend in real time, practice self-regulation, and widen your choices, to respond skillfully, and with kindness
• Make clean, clear requests instead of circling in criticism or withdrawal
• Transform polarized patterns into mutual understanding and shared responsibility
• Take responsibility for hurts, where you lean into the five stages of relationship repair, to bring you back into even deeper connection
• Learn the art of unblending as a way of life, gaining the strength and groundedness to stay in Self, while one partner is activated—without collapsing or counter-blending
• Speak from Self for all of your parts, with greater compassion, skill, and presence
• Recognizing that Self and our parts are not perfect, learning the courage of imperfection: be here for all of your parts, with life's risks, and consequences, unconditionally - that your parts have a Home In You
• Once your parts are attached and connected to You, create a field of Self-energy between you, that your relationship and the space between You also becomes Your bigger Home...

You already have the map. This is the space to practice it together—with support, safety, and skillful facilitation.

This Is Not Psychoeducation. It’s Relational Practice.
This is a live, real, embodied space where your parts will inevitably show up—so we can welcome them, witness them, and invite something new to emerge.

We’ll work with:

• Live parts mapping in session
• Facilitated unblended dialogues from Self, speaking for your parts
• Self-to-Self witnessing practices
• Structured repair and unburdening sequences for relational wounds
• Micro-practices between sessions to support nervous system regulation and relational collaboration

This is not about gaining more insight. It’s about co-creating a different experience—in real time, with protectors, exiles, and resource parts—that contribute to the process, all held in calm, curious, compassionate sunlight of the Self-to-Self field of relational energy.

The Program Includes:

• Weekly 90-minute Couple Sessions
  Focused, experiential containers for deep relational work
• Optional 20-minute Individual Check-ins
  Supporting in unblending from, being with, and speaking for, parts with compassion 
• Ongoing Email Support
  For questions, ruptures, or real-time parts reflections
• Communication Practices: Listening, Speaking For, and Co-creating New Ways of Being
  To support embodiment of Self-led relating in daily life

For Practitioners, Therapists & Partners Experienced in IFS Who...

• Know their system well, but keep looping in the same relational patterns
• Are familiar with IFS and ready to bring it into their partnership in a deeper way
• Want more than understanding—they want transformation, embodiment, and forward movement
• Are seeking skilled, Self-led facilitation that honors each partner’s complexity and courage

You don’t need more tools. You need a space where your existing tools can land in real connection.

Let This Be the Work That Changes the Field Between You
You already know the power of Self-energy to transform an inner system. Now it’s time to apply that same compassion, clarity, and courage to the Space Between You. This isn’t about bypassing conflict. It’s about becoming the kind of couple that can move through it—together, with curiosity and care.

You’re not too late. You’re right on time to choose a different path forward. Not by fixing the past—but by showing up now, in a way you never have before. Together.

If your relationship is calling for something deeper, more real, and more alive—this is your invitation. When you’re ready, you’re welcome to a gentle conversation—a 30-minute discovery call—to explore if this path feels right for both of you. Call John on 0795 412 9046.