Self-Led Coaching
A very warm welcome to Self-Led Coaching and Therapy. IF you're experienced in IFS, an IFS Therapist, or an IFS Pracitioner, and dedicated to living the model as a way of being, IFS Coaching gives you the space to deepen the work and embrace self-actualising your parts in a systemic and holistic way, touched and blessed by the light of Self-energy.
You know this terrain. Felt the unmistakable shift when Self-energy enters the room. You’ve seen how even the fiercest part softens under a gaze of compassion. But there comes a time—after the insight, after the initial relief—when something in the system longs for more. Not just symptom reduction. Not just part recognition. But unblending from self-likeparts with self-energy into Self. Which makes possible real internal trust. Real inner leadership. Real integration.
You may have come to a place in your life when your system hit a crisis. When a Lead Part came forward to provide a systemic integration of parts in chaos. Provoding a dysfunctional-functionality. It's been doing its job for a very long time. Now, your system is ready...
This Is Where the Work Deepens
Parts can understand the model without yet trusting the Self. Unblending may be known in theory but still fragile under pressure. There may still be managerial overlays on spiritual practices, or exile-led hopes dressed up as transformation.
Lead parts who have saved the system are now tired and exhausted, are now themelves longing for real salvation, longing for a relationship with Self too.
In this space, we slow down. We attune not just to parts, but to the quality of Self-energy in the field. We notice subtle blends, to help parts unblend even more distinctly. This releases parts from carrying their burdens alone. And we honour legacy burdens and system-wide beliefs that protect against surrender. And in this clarity of unblending—without striving—something shifts. A part steps back into deep connection and relationship with Self. An exile doesn’t just unburden—but in this qualitatively different experience of itself with Self, over time, begins to belong. And Self is accessed more and more. It becomes our default. Our system's star. Our shining light.
Self-Leadership Is Not a Role—It’s a State
This work is for you if:
Self-Actualisation Is a System Event
When Self truly leads, parts don’t just settle—they become themselves. The inner critic becomes the discerning truth-teller. The anxious part becomes the inner scout. The exile becomes the source of aliveness. Self-realisation is not about one part ascending. It’s about the whole system reorganising around trust, around presence, around love.
This isn’t theory. It’s what begins to happen when parts finally trust Self as leader—not as a performance, but as a truth they can feel.
If You’re Longing for This, You’re Ready
You don’t need more technique. You need a space where Self is consistently welcomed and held, where subtle blends can be met with precision and compassion, and where your system is supported in its next unfolding. This is the kind of work I offer. Relational. Spacious. Deeply respectful. Not about fixing, not about speeding up—but about making room for the wholeness already waiting.
If your soul is stirring—if your parts are whispering that it’s time for a change, call John on (UK) 044 795 412 9046, (Ire) 00353 89 487 5223, or fill in the form below, where there is a welcome for You and all of your parts.
Client Testimonials
"I saw John Donlon for IFS Psychotherapy for six months in the second half of 2024. John's work with me was acutely sensitive and attuned, and he enabled me to approach my hurt parts with much greater compassion and understanding than I had ever managed before, despite many years of therapy. I would recommend John as a therapist without hesitation."
— Roger, IFS Senior Therapist
“Working with IFS has been life-changing. Not only have I healed parts of myself that I didn’t even know were holding me back, but I’ve also learned how to communicate more deeply with my spouse and children. And the clarity I’ve gained has allowed me to refocus my life towards creating a spiritual legacy in my work and relationships that I’m truly proud of. I would never have put it this way before. Now I have the articulation of who I am and what I am doing. And I have my songs in the world doing it.”
— Stevie, Singer, Musician
“IFS therapy helped me to connect with my inner wisdom in ways I didn’t think were possible. I now feel a sense of peace and purpose that I never had before, and it’s impacting everything from my relationships to my professional success. This has been one of the best investments I’ve ever made.”
— Sophia, Writer
"You have been an incredible help in an extremely difficult time in our relationship. I was on the verge of giving up and you took our phone call and spoke to us without any intent or personal gain and we will never forget that. All of the positive thoughts and energy you have given us have truly changed our relationship for the better and I really believe that good karma will come back to bless you in your life."
— Sonam, Entrepreneur
A very warm welcome to Self-Led Coaching and Therapy. IF you're experienced in IFS, an IFS Therapist, or an IFS Pracitioner, and dedicated to living the model as a way of being, IFS Coaching gives you the space to deepen the work and embrace self-actualising your parts in a systemic and holistic way, touched and blessed by the light of Self-energy.
You know this terrain. Felt the unmistakable shift when Self-energy enters the room. You’ve seen how even the fiercest part softens under a gaze of compassion. But there comes a time—after the insight, after the initial relief—when something in the system longs for more. Not just symptom reduction. Not just part recognition. But unblending from self-likeparts with self-energy into Self. Which makes possible real internal trust. Real inner leadership. Real integration.
You may have come to a place in your life when your system hit a crisis. When a Lead Part came forward to provide a systemic integration of parts in chaos. Provoding a dysfunctional-functionality. It's been doing its job for a very long time. Now, your system is ready...
This Is Where the Work Deepens
Parts can understand the model without yet trusting the Self. Unblending may be known in theory but still fragile under pressure. There may still be managerial overlays on spiritual practices, or exile-led hopes dressed up as transformation.
Lead parts who have saved the system are now tired and exhausted, are now themelves longing for real salvation, longing for a relationship with Self too.
In this space, we slow down. We attune not just to parts, but to the quality of Self-energy in the field. We notice subtle blends, to help parts unblend even more distinctly. This releases parts from carrying their burdens alone. And we honour legacy burdens and system-wide beliefs that protect against surrender. And in this clarity of unblending—without striving—something shifts. A part steps back into deep connection and relationship with Self. An exile doesn’t just unburden—but in this qualitatively different experience of itself with Self, over time, begins to belong. And Self is accessed more and more. It becomes our default. Our system's star. Our shining light.
Self-Leadership Is Not a Role—It’s a State
This work is for you if:
- You’re a seasoned client or practitioner ready to deepen embodiment of Self-leadership
- You’ve made contact with Self, but long to live from Self-in-presence consistently
- You sense there are still loyal protectors shielding the deepest trust
- You want to move from intrapsychic understanding into relational integration
- You’re tired of cycling through insight without sustained system-wide transformation
Self-Actualisation Is a System Event
When Self truly leads, parts don’t just settle—they become themselves. The inner critic becomes the discerning truth-teller. The anxious part becomes the inner scout. The exile becomes the source of aliveness. Self-realisation is not about one part ascending. It’s about the whole system reorganising around trust, around presence, around love.
This isn’t theory. It’s what begins to happen when parts finally trust Self as leader—not as a performance, but as a truth they can feel.
If You’re Longing for This, You’re Ready
You don’t need more technique. You need a space where Self is consistently welcomed and held, where subtle blends can be met with precision and compassion, and where your system is supported in its next unfolding. This is the kind of work I offer. Relational. Spacious. Deeply respectful. Not about fixing, not about speeding up—but about making room for the wholeness already waiting.
If your soul is stirring—if your parts are whispering that it’s time for a change, call John on (UK) 044 795 412 9046, (Ire) 00353 89 487 5223, or fill in the form below, where there is a welcome for You and all of your parts.
Client Testimonials
"I saw John Donlon for IFS Psychotherapy for six months in the second half of 2024. John's work with me was acutely sensitive and attuned, and he enabled me to approach my hurt parts with much greater compassion and understanding than I had ever managed before, despite many years of therapy. I would recommend John as a therapist without hesitation."
— Roger, IFS Senior Therapist
“Working with IFS has been life-changing. Not only have I healed parts of myself that I didn’t even know were holding me back, but I’ve also learned how to communicate more deeply with my spouse and children. And the clarity I’ve gained has allowed me to refocus my life towards creating a spiritual legacy in my work and relationships that I’m truly proud of. I would never have put it this way before. Now I have the articulation of who I am and what I am doing. And I have my songs in the world doing it.”
— Stevie, Singer, Musician
“IFS therapy helped me to connect with my inner wisdom in ways I didn’t think were possible. I now feel a sense of peace and purpose that I never had before, and it’s impacting everything from my relationships to my professional success. This has been one of the best investments I’ve ever made.”
— Sophia, Writer
"You have been an incredible help in an extremely difficult time in our relationship. I was on the verge of giving up and you took our phone call and spoke to us without any intent or personal gain and we will never forget that. All of the positive thoughts and energy you have given us have truly changed our relationship for the better and I really believe that good karma will come back to bless you in your life."
— Sonam, Entrepreneur
