Welcome — I'm John Donlon
Whether you're coming as an individual or a couple, I offer a grounded, spacious place to explore. A place where we slow down, listen, and reconnect to the natural intelligence of your system.
IFS is an extraordinarily effective therapy, that can help you heal your inner child, and work with depression, anger issues, obsessions, compulsions, creative blocks, relationship issues, and much much more.
We have many parts to us. Resourceful parts that function well and help us contribute greatly to the world with purity and love. Parts that are very open and suceptible to hurt, who are heartfelt, spontaneous, and creative. Parts that manage our lives for us. Protective parts that look after our more vulnerable ones.
We are, a multitude of parts. And at our core, as I will elaborate below, we are a Self, which is not hurt nor wounded; out of which, we can attend to, heal, and help every one of our parts, become who they truly are, inside our inner system, and in the world.
The foundation of IFS is that it can help you become all of who you truly are: a path to wholeness.
For Individuals
In IFS, in our work together, we create space for every part of You. We don’t rush, fix, or push. Instead, we welcome Every Part of You.
In our Sessions, I invite you to focus on the part, or parts, of you, who are most alive at the start of our session. And which ever part needs most attention, or you would like to give most attention to, we notice, and invite You to listen in an attuned way, to whatever they need to convey.
With an attitude of Curiosity and Compassion, You can approach each Part of You, as the person they are.
Just like getting to know a person, Parts will share their roles, their beliefs, and their experiences.
Our Parts can become "burdened" by life experiences
If they have experienced overwhelm or trauma, they may be still locked in a place of time and space, where that happened to them. These locked-away trauma experiences are called burdens in IFS. And IFS has processes where the part can un-burden and release the stress, overwhelm, false-beliefs and thinking that was created through these experiences. This means each Part of You, can experience release, healing, and come into a state of their original well-being and resourcefulness, and more than this, as they are people, Parts can grow and transform in your system, into who they were born to be, and contribute their gifts, powerfully, internally in your family-system, and in the world.
You are the Key
As I said earlier, the key to this process, is accessing a part of You that has never been injured or hurt, and has qualities of Curiosity, Calm, Confidence, Creativity, Connection, Clarity, and Compassion. In IFS this is called Your Self. You are the Presence through which your Parts are witnessed, unburdened, healed and transformed, bringing the richness of their own gifts and presence, led by Your Starlight Self-energy, where they contribute as a team to this world.
If you would like to experience Individual IFS call John on 0795 412 9046, or fill in the form below.
For Couples
In Couples Therapy, I work with You as Individuals and as A Couple. This means the work is more nuanced, as You come into being as Individuals and In Relationship With Each Other.
Using Internal Family Systems and Intimacy from the Inside Out, we create a space where both of you can be held. Very often I find that Couple's have never been held in the same space fully and authentically where they both have parts that are triggered and need attention simultaneously.
In IFS this is a precious moment. Especially it becomes a place to slow down, and untangle what is happening.
I invite each of you to do a U-turn. That is, to pause. To get curious which Part or Parts within You is speaking? To get into relationship with that Part of You first of all, so that they can experience Your warm loving presence and curiousity.
Once your Protective Parts are witnessed, their hopes and concerns are heard, and their desire for You, or the Part of You, they are Protecting is also heard...You are in a very different place.
You can work in Kindness with your Part. This can mean there can be profound individual healing before anything else happens. Or it may mean that your Part is witnessed enough to relax back a little, and trust You, to know that You can speak eloquently for them and what they truly need.
In this spirit, once your Parts are in relationship with You, You are invited to re-turn to the relationship, and to your partner, to speak for your parts, from a place of Self.
Speaking for your Parts in the voice of Self-energy, is very different than speaking from a Part.
Yet in your Self-connection and relationship with your Part, You can advocate strongly, with greater wisdom, vulnerability, strength, and evoke deeper compassion and understanding from your partner.
You can both move out of a part-to-part reactive cycle, into a Self-to-Self connection.
This radically changes You and Your Partner's whole interaction. Your Parts are led by your own Self-energy, more curious, kinder, calmer, and more creatively.
Your Self-energy is like a sunshine energy where new events and experiences can unfold within You, and Between the Two of You.
To reiterate: The change happens within each of You to start with. Then between You and your Partner, who will also have had the chance to de-esculate, attend to their parts, and come into the eloquence of Self speaking for their parts, in this kinder new way of interaction.
This means creating a field of much much deeper understanding, compassion, with experiences richer in resources of creativity and love, and wonderful new outcomes, firing and strengthening new neural networks of being, which are experienced and created between the two of you.
This field of Self-energy means You and Your Partner establish a new relationship practice. A new way of being in becoming Yourselves in Relationship with each other.
If you would like to experience IFS as a Couple, please call John on 0795 412 9046, or fill in the form below.
Whether you're coming as an individual or a couple, I offer a grounded, spacious place to explore. A place where we slow down, listen, and reconnect to the natural intelligence of your system.
IFS is an extraordinarily effective therapy, that can help you heal your inner child, and work with depression, anger issues, obsessions, compulsions, creative blocks, relationship issues, and much much more.
We have many parts to us. Resourceful parts that function well and help us contribute greatly to the world with purity and love. Parts that are very open and suceptible to hurt, who are heartfelt, spontaneous, and creative. Parts that manage our lives for us. Protective parts that look after our more vulnerable ones.
We are, a multitude of parts. And at our core, as I will elaborate below, we are a Self, which is not hurt nor wounded; out of which, we can attend to, heal, and help every one of our parts, become who they truly are, inside our inner system, and in the world.
The foundation of IFS is that it can help you become all of who you truly are: a path to wholeness.
For Individuals
In IFS, in our work together, we create space for every part of You. We don’t rush, fix, or push. Instead, we welcome Every Part of You.
In our Sessions, I invite you to focus on the part, or parts, of you, who are most alive at the start of our session. And which ever part needs most attention, or you would like to give most attention to, we notice, and invite You to listen in an attuned way, to whatever they need to convey.
With an attitude of Curiosity and Compassion, You can approach each Part of You, as the person they are.
Just like getting to know a person, Parts will share their roles, their beliefs, and their experiences.
Our Parts can become "burdened" by life experiences
If they have experienced overwhelm or trauma, they may be still locked in a place of time and space, where that happened to them. These locked-away trauma experiences are called burdens in IFS. And IFS has processes where the part can un-burden and release the stress, overwhelm, false-beliefs and thinking that was created through these experiences. This means each Part of You, can experience release, healing, and come into a state of their original well-being and resourcefulness, and more than this, as they are people, Parts can grow and transform in your system, into who they were born to be, and contribute their gifts, powerfully, internally in your family-system, and in the world.
You are the Key
As I said earlier, the key to this process, is accessing a part of You that has never been injured or hurt, and has qualities of Curiosity, Calm, Confidence, Creativity, Connection, Clarity, and Compassion. In IFS this is called Your Self. You are the Presence through which your Parts are witnessed, unburdened, healed and transformed, bringing the richness of their own gifts and presence, led by Your Starlight Self-energy, where they contribute as a team to this world.
If you would like to experience Individual IFS call John on 0795 412 9046, or fill in the form below.
For Couples
In Couples Therapy, I work with You as Individuals and as A Couple. This means the work is more nuanced, as You come into being as Individuals and In Relationship With Each Other.
Using Internal Family Systems and Intimacy from the Inside Out, we create a space where both of you can be held. Very often I find that Couple's have never been held in the same space fully and authentically where they both have parts that are triggered and need attention simultaneously.
In IFS this is a precious moment. Especially it becomes a place to slow down, and untangle what is happening.
I invite each of you to do a U-turn. That is, to pause. To get curious which Part or Parts within You is speaking? To get into relationship with that Part of You first of all, so that they can experience Your warm loving presence and curiousity.
Once your Protective Parts are witnessed, their hopes and concerns are heard, and their desire for You, or the Part of You, they are Protecting is also heard...You are in a very different place.
You can work in Kindness with your Part. This can mean there can be profound individual healing before anything else happens. Or it may mean that your Part is witnessed enough to relax back a little, and trust You, to know that You can speak eloquently for them and what they truly need.
In this spirit, once your Parts are in relationship with You, You are invited to re-turn to the relationship, and to your partner, to speak for your parts, from a place of Self.
Speaking for your Parts in the voice of Self-energy, is very different than speaking from a Part.
Yet in your Self-connection and relationship with your Part, You can advocate strongly, with greater wisdom, vulnerability, strength, and evoke deeper compassion and understanding from your partner.
You can both move out of a part-to-part reactive cycle, into a Self-to-Self connection.
This radically changes You and Your Partner's whole interaction. Your Parts are led by your own Self-energy, more curious, kinder, calmer, and more creatively.
Your Self-energy is like a sunshine energy where new events and experiences can unfold within You, and Between the Two of You.
To reiterate: The change happens within each of You to start with. Then between You and your Partner, who will also have had the chance to de-esculate, attend to their parts, and come into the eloquence of Self speaking for their parts, in this kinder new way of interaction.
This means creating a field of much much deeper understanding, compassion, with experiences richer in resources of creativity and love, and wonderful new outcomes, firing and strengthening new neural networks of being, which are experienced and created between the two of you.
This field of Self-energy means You and Your Partner establish a new relationship practice. A new way of being in becoming Yourselves in Relationship with each other.
If you would like to experience IFS as a Couple, please call John on 0795 412 9046, or fill in the form below.
