"Our Common Knowledge" - This is Love.
I was looking at my cat Teddy. I was lying on the floor, on the same level, looking into his eyes. We had shared hundreds of moments like this. I had put my head on his head - and the reiki energy had flowed from my brow between us. And I felt the Love. The energy exchange. I could describe it, name it - but between two living beings, looking, as Antoine De Saint-Exupery said, that love is two beings looking at each other out of the same direction, this defied explanation, to me and Teddy being together in pure love.
Now I was looking into his eyes. I said, slowly, "I Love You...." energetically, and I felt the energy return to me, from him; I knew I loved him, I knew he loves me - and we were in the same moment, Our Common Knowledge." This Is love.
And it was an eternal corridor. As Christ said, "What you bind on earth, is bound in heaven." So this moment bounds our spirits and souls together - and that was Intentional on my part, and a prayer, and a reality, and an eternal and present life-experienced corridor to eternity and to heaven.
And it is true - I love Teddy, my little cat - and the energy is reciprocated without being asked - as a presentment of truth.
Relationally Established Boundaries, are A Space Between Us, Where We Meet
This is different than Individual Boundaries. Many time, my ex-partner said "These are my boundaries," in an Individual Way. And this is hugely valuable. It creates a boundary-gateway around her, which lets me know what she will and will not tolerate. Immensely valuable. And received with gratitude.
However, the impact of those boundaries on me and my parts, and the space-between-us to meet, or not, is to up iy another level.
If her boundaries are protective...I and my parts need to be able to meet those protective parts, get their concerns, understand which parts of her they are protecting, and hold an energy and a space for them these protective parts, and for her more vulnerable exiled parts, Relationally.
Then I can acknowledge any hurts my parts have created, and get their impact, and learn from the experience, and lift that learning up into my life; so that my parts' transgression is not repeated, and that my parts can do something completely different, which lands with kindness and skill--and instead of criticising her parts--requests a positive outcome...and to check-in that this whole process is landing, and we are in it step-by-step process together, which is a meeting, and a walking together, towards a Common Goal, a Common Outcome, which is greater than Ourselves, and our parts...
The Reason Why Our Common Knowledge Is Important
Is that this is love. And the processes we can get to this, are the gateway and the well-spring of our own soul, which houses the treasures of our depths - those experiences which live spiritually through us and we through them, which we feel also through the transmission aspects of empath to another person...and upon this only, establishing boundaries based on the essence of our universal Spirit and avalues.
And this is as Carl Roger's described as a living-experience. Our organismic self. Our Self which we feel in our bones and upon our own pulse, our spiritual nature and very being - on earth - our lived and felt experience here on earth, which opens out the landscape oof our heart's and our mind's to eternity. We are here. And we are living after the manner of eternity. This is grace, and love.
Coming to the Foundation
The Processes which can bring You as a couple to this, are rooted in empathy - in understanding the hurts Your Partner has in this relationship, and opening Your heart, to Acknowledge, Understand, Apologise in Repair, Learn, and Lift that Learning up into your own life - and your relationship with your partner.
This does not mean losing yourself, or denying the impact your partner may have had on you. It does mean doing this process one person at a time, and doing your partner first, or you going first, and then making this a dialectic process.
The dialectic process actually means that using Imago Dialogue, you deeply, fully, and step by step, intentionally, hear each other, and deeply understand and validate each other, from a position of validating your Differences.
From a solid position of affirming yourself, and not collapsing, you can also - without necessarily agreeing - validate your partner.
They can feel heard, and valued, and understood.
And from this as a mutual process and experience the magic can happen, which is almost contradictary, in holding the paradox that you are different people with different experiences, and share the same event compassionately - with a willingness to stretch yourselves to meet each other's deepest needs in each individual experience.
This is an almost holy, transcendent, good-willed, generousity towards each other, to deeply will for your own life's highest wishes and values, and to be good-willed towards your partners' beautiful soul, and share your creations, and and meet - in your uniqueness and difference - with shared values - at same time. It embodies your difference and higher sameness in the goal of love.
And the processes of Imago Dialogue, John Gottman's Relationship House, Terry Real and Cedar Barstow's Repair Processes, and
I was looking at my cat Teddy. I was lying on the floor, on the same level, looking into his eyes. We had shared hundreds of moments like this. I had put my head on his head - and the reiki energy had flowed from my brow between us. And I felt the Love. The energy exchange. I could describe it, name it - but between two living beings, looking, as Antoine De Saint-Exupery said, that love is two beings looking at each other out of the same direction, this defied explanation, to me and Teddy being together in pure love.
Now I was looking into his eyes. I said, slowly, "I Love You...." energetically, and I felt the energy return to me, from him; I knew I loved him, I knew he loves me - and we were in the same moment, Our Common Knowledge." This Is love.
And it was an eternal corridor. As Christ said, "What you bind on earth, is bound in heaven." So this moment bounds our spirits and souls together - and that was Intentional on my part, and a prayer, and a reality, and an eternal and present life-experienced corridor to eternity and to heaven.
And it is true - I love Teddy, my little cat - and the energy is reciprocated without being asked - as a presentment of truth.
Relationally Established Boundaries, are A Space Between Us, Where We Meet
This is different than Individual Boundaries. Many time, my ex-partner said "These are my boundaries," in an Individual Way. And this is hugely valuable. It creates a boundary-gateway around her, which lets me know what she will and will not tolerate. Immensely valuable. And received with gratitude.
However, the impact of those boundaries on me and my parts, and the space-between-us to meet, or not, is to up iy another level.
If her boundaries are protective...I and my parts need to be able to meet those protective parts, get their concerns, understand which parts of her they are protecting, and hold an energy and a space for them these protective parts, and for her more vulnerable exiled parts, Relationally.
Then I can acknowledge any hurts my parts have created, and get their impact, and learn from the experience, and lift that learning up into my life; so that my parts' transgression is not repeated, and that my parts can do something completely different, which lands with kindness and skill--and instead of criticising her parts--requests a positive outcome...and to check-in that this whole process is landing, and we are in it step-by-step process together, which is a meeting, and a walking together, towards a Common Goal, a Common Outcome, which is greater than Ourselves, and our parts...
The Reason Why Our Common Knowledge Is Important
Is that this is love. And the processes we can get to this, are the gateway and the well-spring of our own soul, which houses the treasures of our depths - those experiences which live spiritually through us and we through them, which we feel also through the transmission aspects of empath to another person...and upon this only, establishing boundaries based on the essence of our universal Spirit and avalues.
And this is as Carl Roger's described as a living-experience. Our organismic self. Our Self which we feel in our bones and upon our own pulse, our spiritual nature and very being - on earth - our lived and felt experience here on earth, which opens out the landscape oof our heart's and our mind's to eternity. We are here. And we are living after the manner of eternity. This is grace, and love.
Coming to the Foundation
The Processes which can bring You as a couple to this, are rooted in empathy - in understanding the hurts Your Partner has in this relationship, and opening Your heart, to Acknowledge, Understand, Apologise in Repair, Learn, and Lift that Learning up into your own life - and your relationship with your partner.
This does not mean losing yourself, or denying the impact your partner may have had on you. It does mean doing this process one person at a time, and doing your partner first, or you going first, and then making this a dialectic process.
The dialectic process actually means that using Imago Dialogue, you deeply, fully, and step by step, intentionally, hear each other, and deeply understand and validate each other, from a position of validating your Differences.
From a solid position of affirming yourself, and not collapsing, you can also - without necessarily agreeing - validate your partner.
They can feel heard, and valued, and understood.
And from this as a mutual process and experience the magic can happen, which is almost contradictary, in holding the paradox that you are different people with different experiences, and share the same event compassionately - with a willingness to stretch yourselves to meet each other's deepest needs in each individual experience.
This is an almost holy, transcendent, good-willed, generousity towards each other, to deeply will for your own life's highest wishes and values, and to be good-willed towards your partners' beautiful soul, and share your creations, and and meet - in your uniqueness and difference - with shared values - at same time. It embodies your difference and higher sameness in the goal of love.
And the processes of Imago Dialogue, John Gottman's Relationship House, Terry Real and Cedar Barstow's Repair Processes, and
