SELF-LED IFS COACHING
Self-Led Coaching
Self-led coaching gives your parts connection with the Presence of Your Self, where your parts can come into being, and become, and grow, learn, and thrive, as who they were born to be - in connection with each other, in the sunlight of Self. Through the combination of IFS and expert Coaching, 7 years of evidence is showing, again and again, through clients' work, your life can be more whole.
Parts are born for Excellence and Abundance
In Self-Led Coaching, our parts are unburdened, and also, they have the capacities for growth, and excellence, and contribution. Unburdened, our parts are naturally resourceful. Here in this gentle and strong light of Self we are the Presence through which our parts become even more resourceful through their own self-actualisation process. Our parts are born for connection, for growth, excellence and abundance, through their contribution. This is reflected on a spiritual level when Jesus said, "I have come that you may have life, and have it in abundance."
IFS Self-Led Coaching builds on IFS as a "constraint-release model" and add self-actualisation for all parts of us individually and collectively as a team, moving towards mastery and excellence, with Self-in-Presence.
In each sphere our parts develop their many gifts and talents, where they are born more than to survive, but to thrive. This makes us richer in our internal landscape as human being - and it makes the world around us, our relationships, our celebration of not only connection but co-creation with others, richer - where we find our place of meeting, communion, play - and being with, expansively - we bring our internal landscape to the world - and meeting the world with Self-in-Presence with all of who we are with our parts, magnifies what the world brings to us with others, at the best of times and with our Self-Led focus, in celebration.
A Self-led Lens: Being Your Gifts in the world - and expanding others' Gifts Co-creatively
The expertise of practices, such as Imago Dialogue, Terry Real's work in creating equal power dynamics where individuals and couples can connect, Chris Voss' divergent take on negotiations, William Ury's contributions to negotiation, Rollo May's linking Spirituality and embodied psychotherapy, NLP's gifts, Cedar Barstow's repair processes, John Gottman's work with couples, all of these and more...through the existential lens of IFS which starts with becoming who You are - in full connection and growing relationship with your parts - coming into being as all You are with your parts...and expanding this to the space between you and your partner, your friends, children, family, organisations...brings a powerful centring and groundedness to all of these practices, through a uniqueness which is your own...
More of Who You Are
IFS gives us the depths of reaching the deepest parts of us, helping them unburden their experiences, beliefs, strategies and roles, in connection with Your Self, to realise more of who You are - and more of who they are - your precious gifted parts!
And the gift is also in the processes of transformation. When a person transforms and knows these ways of changing, that is a profound gift for themselves, and for those they come into contact with - and a sharing which is more than words, because it is our very ways of coming into being as ourselves and facilitating others - which I and my parts find is a kind of joy.
Self-Led Coaching, Practically Speaking...
In practical terms, in Self-led coaching sessions, first of all we will connect with each other, and welcome all of your parts.
We may, for the session, discover the core issue a part or parts are bringing, and ask them for a valuable objection and outcome. The essence of what is going on here for them.
We will deeply attend to their fears and emotions, and pay attention to their energy shifts and needs.
We will enquire boldly from Self and stretch towards clarity, towards each part's autonomy, unburdened freedom, and choice...
And we will do so with HOPE - trusting every single parts' own intrinsic higher energy (parts have their own self - and when unburdened this is released - and parts share their amenability not just to growth but for connection and expansion with other parts - and with others!).
Keeping to these practices and ways of living with each other in our coaching sessions, the result will be MORE Clarity, Forward-Movement, Self-Confidence, Autonomy, Connectedness with Other parts Systemically (as we work around the system in your own ecology to help you attain true balance and healing), and exploring Options with more openness and curiosity and courage.
As your parts open out to exploring in the Light of Self-energy, this touches upon your own parts' natural qualities, of curiosity, compassion, calm, creativity, connectedness, confidence (which is sentience: the actualising of new neural pathways, for the parts' good), and these repeated experiences in this energetic field mostly held by you...and definitely between us...results in the quality of your parts, and your systems' Resilience, in their and Your growth process itself...
The result is that parts that may have felt down-trodden...in this miraculous process where You attend to the Inner Landscapes of your being...become resilient...and we will also add time proven, measurable, implementable, strategies and skills to empower your parts.
This speaks to the truth that no matter how unburdened your parts are, they still need to learn skills, to have really good relationships, become powerful in delivering their gifts in the world - and in relating to all of the other parts in your own system, so you go out, as a powerful team, into the world, still learning, and graced by feedback, under the light of Self-energy's courage.
And to enable you, we will unashamedly use the light of IFS to hold the gifts of Imago Dialogue, Terry Real's work, Expert Negotiation Skills, NLP, Relationship Repair, Sex Therapy, Life Coaching, Business Coaching, Relationship Coaching...to make your life all it can be...
In Self-Lead Coaching, your system will re-align
As one client said, "Before parts of me which didn't belong in certain situations were trying to handle things, and it was a mess. And the parts of me which could handle things really well, well were nowhere to be seen! Now it's the reverse! Everything seems to have fallen into place! I'm working so much better! And the little parts of me are cared for!"
You (Your Self-Energy and your Parts) will Grow, through the problems you encounter in Self-Led Coaching
We will ensure the problems you face, are linked to personal change, in the most constructive way for You and what you truly wish to achieve in the world.
For example, if you want to make your wife listen to you - we will discover how you can change your ways of communication and behaviour, so that the chances of your wife listening to you in a meaningful way for you radically increases.
If you want to increase the motivation of your team - we will focus on adjusting your behaviours to become a motivating manager.
And moreover, if you come into self-led coaching, we will engage in a co-creative process, greatly led by you and your parts, with a lot of empowering offers of help from the horizontal, where you can create a field to create and grow your life, your parts talents, internal and external connections, and expand your life and your place in it, with power.
If you'd like to take the first step into a more Self-led life, please contact John, where I'd be delighted to hear from you, on 044795-4129046, or 00353-894875223
"Wishing You and your parts a day, where you are in Kind, Courageous, Connection With Each Other," John Donlon
Self-led coaching gives your parts connection with the Presence of Your Self, where your parts can come into being, and become, and grow, learn, and thrive, as who they were born to be - in connection with each other, in the sunlight of Self. Through the combination of IFS and expert Coaching, 7 years of evidence is showing, again and again, through clients' work, your life can be more whole.
Parts are born for Excellence and Abundance
In Self-Led Coaching, our parts are unburdened, and also, they have the capacities for growth, and excellence, and contribution. Unburdened, our parts are naturally resourceful. Here in this gentle and strong light of Self we are the Presence through which our parts become even more resourceful through their own self-actualisation process. Our parts are born for connection, for growth, excellence and abundance, through their contribution. This is reflected on a spiritual level when Jesus said, "I have come that you may have life, and have it in abundance."
IFS Self-Led Coaching builds on IFS as a "constraint-release model" and add self-actualisation for all parts of us individually and collectively as a team, moving towards mastery and excellence, with Self-in-Presence.
In each sphere our parts develop their many gifts and talents, where they are born more than to survive, but to thrive. This makes us richer in our internal landscape as human being - and it makes the world around us, our relationships, our celebration of not only connection but co-creation with others, richer - where we find our place of meeting, communion, play - and being with, expansively - we bring our internal landscape to the world - and meeting the world with Self-in-Presence with all of who we are with our parts, magnifies what the world brings to us with others, at the best of times and with our Self-Led focus, in celebration.
A Self-led Lens: Being Your Gifts in the world - and expanding others' Gifts Co-creatively
The expertise of practices, such as Imago Dialogue, Terry Real's work in creating equal power dynamics where individuals and couples can connect, Chris Voss' divergent take on negotiations, William Ury's contributions to negotiation, Rollo May's linking Spirituality and embodied psychotherapy, NLP's gifts, Cedar Barstow's repair processes, John Gottman's work with couples, all of these and more...through the existential lens of IFS which starts with becoming who You are - in full connection and growing relationship with your parts - coming into being as all You are with your parts...and expanding this to the space between you and your partner, your friends, children, family, organisations...brings a powerful centring and groundedness to all of these practices, through a uniqueness which is your own...
More of Who You Are
IFS gives us the depths of reaching the deepest parts of us, helping them unburden their experiences, beliefs, strategies and roles, in connection with Your Self, to realise more of who You are - and more of who they are - your precious gifted parts!
And the gift is also in the processes of transformation. When a person transforms and knows these ways of changing, that is a profound gift for themselves, and for those they come into contact with - and a sharing which is more than words, because it is our very ways of coming into being as ourselves and facilitating others - which I and my parts find is a kind of joy.
Self-Led Coaching, Practically Speaking...
In practical terms, in Self-led coaching sessions, first of all we will connect with each other, and welcome all of your parts.
We may, for the session, discover the core issue a part or parts are bringing, and ask them for a valuable objection and outcome. The essence of what is going on here for them.
We will deeply attend to their fears and emotions, and pay attention to their energy shifts and needs.
We will enquire boldly from Self and stretch towards clarity, towards each part's autonomy, unburdened freedom, and choice...
And we will do so with HOPE - trusting every single parts' own intrinsic higher energy (parts have their own self - and when unburdened this is released - and parts share their amenability not just to growth but for connection and expansion with other parts - and with others!).
Keeping to these practices and ways of living with each other in our coaching sessions, the result will be MORE Clarity, Forward-Movement, Self-Confidence, Autonomy, Connectedness with Other parts Systemically (as we work around the system in your own ecology to help you attain true balance and healing), and exploring Options with more openness and curiosity and courage.
As your parts open out to exploring in the Light of Self-energy, this touches upon your own parts' natural qualities, of curiosity, compassion, calm, creativity, connectedness, confidence (which is sentience: the actualising of new neural pathways, for the parts' good), and these repeated experiences in this energetic field mostly held by you...and definitely between us...results in the quality of your parts, and your systems' Resilience, in their and Your growth process itself...
The result is that parts that may have felt down-trodden...in this miraculous process where You attend to the Inner Landscapes of your being...become resilient...and we will also add time proven, measurable, implementable, strategies and skills to empower your parts.
This speaks to the truth that no matter how unburdened your parts are, they still need to learn skills, to have really good relationships, become powerful in delivering their gifts in the world - and in relating to all of the other parts in your own system, so you go out, as a powerful team, into the world, still learning, and graced by feedback, under the light of Self-energy's courage.
And to enable you, we will unashamedly use the light of IFS to hold the gifts of Imago Dialogue, Terry Real's work, Expert Negotiation Skills, NLP, Relationship Repair, Sex Therapy, Life Coaching, Business Coaching, Relationship Coaching...to make your life all it can be...
In Self-Lead Coaching, your system will re-align
As one client said, "Before parts of me which didn't belong in certain situations were trying to handle things, and it was a mess. And the parts of me which could handle things really well, well were nowhere to be seen! Now it's the reverse! Everything seems to have fallen into place! I'm working so much better! And the little parts of me are cared for!"
You (Your Self-Energy and your Parts) will Grow, through the problems you encounter in Self-Led Coaching
We will ensure the problems you face, are linked to personal change, in the most constructive way for You and what you truly wish to achieve in the world.
For example, if you want to make your wife listen to you - we will discover how you can change your ways of communication and behaviour, so that the chances of your wife listening to you in a meaningful way for you radically increases.
If you want to increase the motivation of your team - we will focus on adjusting your behaviours to become a motivating manager.
And moreover, if you come into self-led coaching, we will engage in a co-creative process, greatly led by you and your parts, with a lot of empowering offers of help from the horizontal, where you can create a field to create and grow your life, your parts talents, internal and external connections, and expand your life and your place in it, with power.
If you'd like to take the first step into a more Self-led life, please contact John, where I'd be delighted to hear from you, on 044795-4129046, or 00353-894875223
"Wishing You and your parts a day, where you are in Kind, Courageous, Connection With Each Other," John Donlon
