Is a brand new transformation approach which marries deeper inner-healing and integration, with parts' development towards excellence and mastery as a system, in a Self-led way.
Internal Family Systems Therapy is the most powerful way of transforming our relationship with all parts of us, in a way which is healing, empowering, self-actualising, and contributing to the world.
IFS Coaching with Couples is a revolution in the way Couples relate to themselves and each other, bringing in curiosity and compassion, to transform their relationshipand create a space in which both people grow, thrive, and embrace celebrating the experience of living, together.
As people become more compassionate with themselves, they become more compassionate to those intimately close to them, their family, their work colleagues, and acqauintances.
Our parts are sub-personalities, that have their own thoughts, feelings, and ways of being. They are people. One of the most well-known and universally accepted parts, is our inner-child. I have found within myself, I have many parts. When I thought of "my ego" and tried to relate to "it," that for me was like talking to a whole class-room, and addressing many selves as one; and that wasn't an eloquent way of relating to them. My many many parts didn't like that. However, when I began to get to know them individually, each part really appreciated that - just like a person does. Our parts are people. And so my relationship with my parts became far more eloquent, effective, healing, and co-operative. They began to work with Me, and with each other, more as a team. The joy of being a multiplicity is more connectedness and unity. And the ineloquence of speaking to a mass of parts as a crowd instead of individually is in my experience less effective, less specific, less relational, more general and vague, and frankly far far less unified and with much much less agency - like the crew of a ship all doing their own thing and not working together with a common purpose nor having any real relationship with each other which is connected communicatively - and creating more mayhem throughout the boat. When people argue that they have no parts, and I see the lack of utility and lack of agency they have with their emotions and thoughts and feelings and different aspects of themselves, and they speak about their "ego" a part of me breathes a sigh and wonders which part they are in at that moment? And they have a perfect right to self-determination and not to think of themselves as a multiplicity of parts with a core Self in the middle.
However, Richard Schwartz to my mind didn't so much as create a system, as much as he began learning from his clients, and working with what is.
The greatness of the man is his humility in working with and growing out of structures of the universe greater than himself.
And my purpose as a therapist working with people with so many different types of inner family systems is to learn from them by asking the question of each one, essentially, "Teach me what you need, to come into being?"
And to couples, "Teach me what do you each need to come into being individually, and create a bridge between you, as you come into being together?"
That reminds me of Rumi's field.
It is a place where we come into ourselves truly. We open our hearts to the authentic well-spring of being within us, a flow of memories and thoughts and creation, as we put ourselves and the gifts of our hearts' which we feel on our own pulse into the world, from moment to moment, and make it our craft.
And find this evokes the energy of another.
We find them coming forwards across the field.
We begin playing magically in our authenticity, saying words from our souls', with knowledge no one could have taught us because it belongs to the universal language of loving goodness in the spiritual forms we do - and those forms are of an energy which lights up time in the temporal order with a meaning which touches us and goes beyond death, and for a moment, we know we are alive. And that life is worth it. Is worth living for.
And there is another here, in actual soul.
And we have called them forth in being ourselves.
And they us, in being themselves.
And we are smiling, together.
Our bodies are smiling, energetically.
And we feel and know it, on our pulse.
And who has told you this?
And how do you know?
We are here, together, on this page, in this place, beyond time, beyond space, within our hearts, within each other.
We are meeting, in the field.
Internal Family Systems Therapy is the most powerful way of transforming our relationship with all parts of us, in a way which is healing, empowering, self-actualising, and contributing to the world.
IFS Coaching with Couples is a revolution in the way Couples relate to themselves and each other, bringing in curiosity and compassion, to transform their relationshipand create a space in which both people grow, thrive, and embrace celebrating the experience of living, together.
As people become more compassionate with themselves, they become more compassionate to those intimately close to them, their family, their work colleagues, and acqauintances.
Our parts are sub-personalities, that have their own thoughts, feelings, and ways of being. They are people. One of the most well-known and universally accepted parts, is our inner-child. I have found within myself, I have many parts. When I thought of "my ego" and tried to relate to "it," that for me was like talking to a whole class-room, and addressing many selves as one; and that wasn't an eloquent way of relating to them. My many many parts didn't like that. However, when I began to get to know them individually, each part really appreciated that - just like a person does. Our parts are people. And so my relationship with my parts became far more eloquent, effective, healing, and co-operative. They began to work with Me, and with each other, more as a team. The joy of being a multiplicity is more connectedness and unity. And the ineloquence of speaking to a mass of parts as a crowd instead of individually is in my experience less effective, less specific, less relational, more general and vague, and frankly far far less unified and with much much less agency - like the crew of a ship all doing their own thing and not working together with a common purpose nor having any real relationship with each other which is connected communicatively - and creating more mayhem throughout the boat. When people argue that they have no parts, and I see the lack of utility and lack of agency they have with their emotions and thoughts and feelings and different aspects of themselves, and they speak about their "ego" a part of me breathes a sigh and wonders which part they are in at that moment? And they have a perfect right to self-determination and not to think of themselves as a multiplicity of parts with a core Self in the middle.
However, Richard Schwartz to my mind didn't so much as create a system, as much as he began learning from his clients, and working with what is.
The greatness of the man is his humility in working with and growing out of structures of the universe greater than himself.
And my purpose as a therapist working with people with so many different types of inner family systems is to learn from them by asking the question of each one, essentially, "Teach me what you need, to come into being?"
And to couples, "Teach me what do you each need to come into being individually, and create a bridge between you, as you come into being together?"
That reminds me of Rumi's field.
It is a place where we come into ourselves truly. We open our hearts to the authentic well-spring of being within us, a flow of memories and thoughts and creation, as we put ourselves and the gifts of our hearts' which we feel on our own pulse into the world, from moment to moment, and make it our craft.
And find this evokes the energy of another.
We find them coming forwards across the field.
We begin playing magically in our authenticity, saying words from our souls', with knowledge no one could have taught us because it belongs to the universal language of loving goodness in the spiritual forms we do - and those forms are of an energy which lights up time in the temporal order with a meaning which touches us and goes beyond death, and for a moment, we know we are alive. And that life is worth it. Is worth living for.
And there is another here, in actual soul.
And we have called them forth in being ourselves.
And they us, in being themselves.
And we are smiling, together.
Our bodies are smiling, energetically.
And we feel and know it, on our pulse.
And who has told you this?
And how do you know?
We are here, together, on this page, in this place, beyond time, beyond space, within our hearts, within each other.
We are meeting, in the field.