These unique self-contained progam modules are like no other.
Having experienced parental alienation first hand and working spouses on both sides this powerful and unique approach focuses on communication, taking no sides, helping people move forwards in the kindest way for themselves, each other, and their children.
Why does these modules work?
This unique approach resolves the conflicts caused by parental alienation by going to the root causes of the problem, shifting the tectonic plates, utilising a model of love which focuses on a healthy family dynamic.
Each specilialized module of this program is a complete approach in itself, and is tailored for individuals, seperating couples, professionals, counsellors, psychiatrists, social workers, lawyers, judges, mental health professionals, doctors, and therapists, who are dealing with parental alienation, or the triad where one person is partly consciously and partly inadvertently creating a dynamic which works against a child or children's healthy contact and relationship with the other parent.
In it you will discover :
What the alienating parent must say to themselves to create a dyfuncational triad sometimes known as parental alientation
The dysfuncational model of love that creates parental alienation
The dynamics of defending the child and attacking the other parent
The assassination of the other parent's character, their parenting, and how their relationship is seen as damaging by the alientating parent
The alienated parent's likely response in defending themselves.
The outcome of parental alienation
How instead of being used as an opportunity to offer kindness and support, which would benefit the other parent, make their relationship with the other parent more compassionate and positive, and in this way help their children both directly - in seeing their parents behave well towards each other, and indirectly in helping the child maintain, foster and grow with a poitive attitude and relationship with their other parent, the difficulties, vulnerabilities, mental and emotional issues of the parent are used as examples of why the child is in danger and why their relationship with the other parent is damaging to the child, and presented to courts as evidences why the child's relationship with the other parent should be limited or cease - usually incrementally and over time - until through this process eventually the child comes to have no contact with their other parent...
Furthermore, in the adversarial justice system, who may be advised by social workers who are uneducated in this specialist field, and whose very culture and education lack the insight into a healthy model of love and how this situation has arisen out of a dysfunctioal model of love and how dysfuncational and harmful triads play out, the alientating parent seemingly is immune from having their own mental and emotional difficulties evaluated correctly...which may in reality be far more malevolent and more pronounced - as doctors, social services and uneducated experts side with what is essentially a paranioa-like dynamic in the alientating parent. This is judges especailly who are advised by social services who as a culture are as yet uneducated are woefully inadequate to deal with this area and why their is social outrage of alienated parents on the other side of what may clearly be an injustice - but which the courts may "err on the side of caution" in a culture of political correctness and fear...as the child may come to firmly reside with the resident parent without any further contact with the alienated parent.
This is an epidemic certainly in the UK which stems out of a lack of understanding and plays into the self-protective nature of a blame culture of protection for the child versus an understanding of a healthy family dynamic and how to create it.
Certainly if the courts were enlightened, from judges to social workers, to psychologists, to psychiatrists, they would view what is taking place now, and their place in it, as well as their "victories" against alientated parents in saving children from harm in cases where there is no real evidence - and in fact evidence to the contrary of a previously happy attachment of the child with the alientated parent - the courts if they were enlightened on all levels would be deeply ashamed of their part in the pandemic of parental alientation.
But also, they are acting without real insight. And blindly doing their best. Every culture initially resists the insight of radical change. This was also true at first when the world was discovered to be round. This was met at first with holistility. Later with acceptance. And later as fact.
At the moment with parental alientation the courts meet new insight with resistance or dismissal. And the psychiatrists who are the most enlightened are in fact often not listen to over social workers, psychologists and psychiatrists who are uneducated in this field.
Actually even using the words Parental Alienation against an alienated spouse can cause them and those who side with them in an adversarial culture to become very defensive and attack the alienated parent as though they themselves were entirely innocent even more vehemently.
Although the alientating parent is doing the attacking, in actual fact the alienating parent is also carrying a deep and grevious wound which is allied to their own story about protecting their child from hurt and putting the child first above all else including their own needs. As stated they catastrophize the effect of the child's relationship with the other parent, interrogate them over every experience with the opposite parent, and as context is everything, this catastrophizing causes a re-interpreation and evaluation of the child's own inner experience, which over time has a profound effect as the alienating parent becomes a co-author of their child's inner perception, story, dialogue, past, present and future inner and outer representations and actions of their hostile or dismissive relationship with opposite parent.
Reading this many people may think the child needs to be re-programmed, but what the child actually needs is to experience and disentangle contaminated from pristine love. One way to do this is an integrative meditative process which works with their mind and body.
And the alienating parent also needs kindness to heal from their own grevious wound; as if you ever observe them, this is very far from a resourceful empowering state. It looks like it is absolutely crippling. And misplaced compassion without understanding can support the paranioa-like dimensions of this wound instead of helping them heal positively with kindness towards establishing a kind and healthy dynamic with their ex-partner, which is paradoxically the approach which would be most beneficial for each adult and in family dynamc theory especially for their child.
But first it is wise to work with the cultural dimensions and change the dynamics to facilitate understanding and make these changes eventually possible.
The Solutions To The Dysfuncational Triad Sometimes Called Parental Alienation
Resolving Parental Alientation by educating both parents on a healthy model of love and helping them see clearly what has gone wrong in their relationship - with a view to empowering them to create and embody a healthy model for themselves and their child/children in the present, and a healthy model of love for any relationships in the future
Creating connection in a dialogue without being punitive, without judgement or blame, moving forwards in the most empowering positive way - embracing the understanding of a healthy model of love -and the lasting benefits for their children and for generations to come
Understanding how this new understanding of a healthy model of family relationships can bring healing to everyone in the situation including truly empowering and resourcing the previously alienating parent with courage towards life and the skills to deal with whatever life throws at them and their child - instead of catasrophizing scenes of hurt in their mind for their child with the previously alientated parent (this process allows the previously alienating parent to become free themselves to truly live their lives, their physiiology and demeanour changes, as they themselves heal from carrying this wound of catastrophizing experience and defending their child, as they take on new priorities of courage, kindess, self-fulfilment and Conscious Parenting)
How Parental Alienation maintains hurt and blocks the flow of love
How bonds with your children can limit their lives and development in the context of a dysfuncational model of love
The ideal family dynamic for spouses who are together and who are seperated parents to nurture healthy children
The Purpose of Forgiveness is allowing love to flow
Healing your relationship with your child's father/mother with the realisation that your child/children internalise both parents as part of their own psyche and identity - and to wage war against your ex-partner in effect creates a disconnect in your child's experirence of their father/mother and their own experience of themselves with that person - as a disconnect from reality and a major part of their identity
Case Study: How one wise woman saved herself, her child, and her spouse from parental alientation through therapy, and her own realisations, which set her free, healed a catastrophizing wound she was carrying within herself as a story about her ex-partner, made her stronger, more resourceful and how her daugher benefitted directly in their relationship, and her relationship with her father - and how her father also benefitted by this strong woman's lead, through her courage and active kindness (which when a parent is in an alientating mindset are absolutely anti-intuitive and the last thing they would imagine doing)
Having experienced parental alienation first hand and working spouses on both sides this powerful and unique approach focuses on communication, taking no sides, helping people move forwards in the kindest way for themselves, each other, and their children.
Why does these modules work?
This unique approach resolves the conflicts caused by parental alienation by going to the root causes of the problem, shifting the tectonic plates, utilising a model of love which focuses on a healthy family dynamic.
Each specilialized module of this program is a complete approach in itself, and is tailored for individuals, seperating couples, professionals, counsellors, psychiatrists, social workers, lawyers, judges, mental health professionals, doctors, and therapists, who are dealing with parental alienation, or the triad where one person is partly consciously and partly inadvertently creating a dynamic which works against a child or children's healthy contact and relationship with the other parent.
In it you will discover :
What the alienating parent must say to themselves to create a dyfuncational triad sometimes known as parental alientation
The dysfuncational model of love that creates parental alienation
The dynamics of defending the child and attacking the other parent
The assassination of the other parent's character, their parenting, and how their relationship is seen as damaging by the alientating parent
The alienated parent's likely response in defending themselves.
The outcome of parental alienation
How instead of being used as an opportunity to offer kindness and support, which would benefit the other parent, make their relationship with the other parent more compassionate and positive, and in this way help their children both directly - in seeing their parents behave well towards each other, and indirectly in helping the child maintain, foster and grow with a poitive attitude and relationship with their other parent, the difficulties, vulnerabilities, mental and emotional issues of the parent are used as examples of why the child is in danger and why their relationship with the other parent is damaging to the child, and presented to courts as evidences why the child's relationship with the other parent should be limited or cease - usually incrementally and over time - until through this process eventually the child comes to have no contact with their other parent...
Furthermore, in the adversarial justice system, who may be advised by social workers who are uneducated in this specialist field, and whose very culture and education lack the insight into a healthy model of love and how this situation has arisen out of a dysfunctioal model of love and how dysfuncational and harmful triads play out, the alientating parent seemingly is immune from having their own mental and emotional difficulties evaluated correctly...which may in reality be far more malevolent and more pronounced - as doctors, social services and uneducated experts side with what is essentially a paranioa-like dynamic in the alientating parent. This is judges especailly who are advised by social services who as a culture are as yet uneducated are woefully inadequate to deal with this area and why their is social outrage of alienated parents on the other side of what may clearly be an injustice - but which the courts may "err on the side of caution" in a culture of political correctness and fear...as the child may come to firmly reside with the resident parent without any further contact with the alienated parent.
This is an epidemic certainly in the UK which stems out of a lack of understanding and plays into the self-protective nature of a blame culture of protection for the child versus an understanding of a healthy family dynamic and how to create it.
Certainly if the courts were enlightened, from judges to social workers, to psychologists, to psychiatrists, they would view what is taking place now, and their place in it, as well as their "victories" against alientated parents in saving children from harm in cases where there is no real evidence - and in fact evidence to the contrary of a previously happy attachment of the child with the alientated parent - the courts if they were enlightened on all levels would be deeply ashamed of their part in the pandemic of parental alientation.
But also, they are acting without real insight. And blindly doing their best. Every culture initially resists the insight of radical change. This was also true at first when the world was discovered to be round. This was met at first with holistility. Later with acceptance. And later as fact.
At the moment with parental alientation the courts meet new insight with resistance or dismissal. And the psychiatrists who are the most enlightened are in fact often not listen to over social workers, psychologists and psychiatrists who are uneducated in this field.
Actually even using the words Parental Alienation against an alienated spouse can cause them and those who side with them in an adversarial culture to become very defensive and attack the alienated parent as though they themselves were entirely innocent even more vehemently.
Although the alientating parent is doing the attacking, in actual fact the alienating parent is also carrying a deep and grevious wound which is allied to their own story about protecting their child from hurt and putting the child first above all else including their own needs. As stated they catastrophize the effect of the child's relationship with the other parent, interrogate them over every experience with the opposite parent, and as context is everything, this catastrophizing causes a re-interpreation and evaluation of the child's own inner experience, which over time has a profound effect as the alienating parent becomes a co-author of their child's inner perception, story, dialogue, past, present and future inner and outer representations and actions of their hostile or dismissive relationship with opposite parent.
Reading this many people may think the child needs to be re-programmed, but what the child actually needs is to experience and disentangle contaminated from pristine love. One way to do this is an integrative meditative process which works with their mind and body.
And the alienating parent also needs kindness to heal from their own grevious wound; as if you ever observe them, this is very far from a resourceful empowering state. It looks like it is absolutely crippling. And misplaced compassion without understanding can support the paranioa-like dimensions of this wound instead of helping them heal positively with kindness towards establishing a kind and healthy dynamic with their ex-partner, which is paradoxically the approach which would be most beneficial for each adult and in family dynamc theory especially for their child.
But first it is wise to work with the cultural dimensions and change the dynamics to facilitate understanding and make these changes eventually possible.
The Solutions To The Dysfuncational Triad Sometimes Called Parental Alienation
Resolving Parental Alientation by educating both parents on a healthy model of love and helping them see clearly what has gone wrong in their relationship - with a view to empowering them to create and embody a healthy model for themselves and their child/children in the present, and a healthy model of love for any relationships in the future
Creating connection in a dialogue without being punitive, without judgement or blame, moving forwards in the most empowering positive way - embracing the understanding of a healthy model of love -and the lasting benefits for their children and for generations to come
Understanding how this new understanding of a healthy model of family relationships can bring healing to everyone in the situation including truly empowering and resourcing the previously alienating parent with courage towards life and the skills to deal with whatever life throws at them and their child - instead of catasrophizing scenes of hurt in their mind for their child with the previously alientated parent (this process allows the previously alienating parent to become free themselves to truly live their lives, their physiiology and demeanour changes, as they themselves heal from carrying this wound of catastrophizing experience and defending their child, as they take on new priorities of courage, kindess, self-fulfilment and Conscious Parenting)
How Parental Alienation maintains hurt and blocks the flow of love
How bonds with your children can limit their lives and development in the context of a dysfuncational model of love
The ideal family dynamic for spouses who are together and who are seperated parents to nurture healthy children
The Purpose of Forgiveness is allowing love to flow
Healing your relationship with your child's father/mother with the realisation that your child/children internalise both parents as part of their own psyche and identity - and to wage war against your ex-partner in effect creates a disconnect in your child's experirence of their father/mother and their own experience of themselves with that person - as a disconnect from reality and a major part of their identity
Case Study: How one wise woman saved herself, her child, and her spouse from parental alientation through therapy, and her own realisations, which set her free, healed a catastrophizing wound she was carrying within herself as a story about her ex-partner, made her stronger, more resourceful and how her daugher benefitted directly in their relationship, and her relationship with her father - and how her father also benefitted by this strong woman's lead, through her courage and active kindness (which when a parent is in an alientating mindset are absolutely anti-intuitive and the last thing they would imagine doing)
