is social media impacting your sex drive ?

Keep social media out of the bedroom!

I was reading an article today on the BBC website discussing that couples are simply too busy to have sex compared to ten years

Money worries, work issues and social media sites are impacting a lot of people's sex lives.

Modern life and technology was meant to bring with it opportunities for more space and time to be with our friends and loved ones. 

However the way we engage with modern day living and technology just isn't compatible with our intimate relationships.

In my work as a sex therapist with couples and individual a pattern I see often is that they find it difficult to switch off when they go to bed or about to have sex. They have their army of modern day technology - tablets, laptops and smart phones communicating with others around the world while they disconnect from their partner sitting so close to them in the bed.

When John and I go out for a meal we find it so surprising the amount of couples who are on a night out together to enjoy each other's company but they are too distracted to really engage with each other as they are busy on twitter, Facebook or answering emails. Sadly for many couples this is becoming the norm.

Sex is such an important part of relationships and if that connection is being lost during the day or evening by social media and technology no wonder people are having sex less.

All this technology was meant to make our lives easier and it does to some degree but the problem is that we are not using it in a way to enhance our lives. It's wonderful we can have instant communication with people from all around the world but it's important to have boundaries in place so your relationship and sex life with your partner does not suffer.

Here are ten vital tips to help get your sex life back on track and to allocate "real" face-to-face time to each other.

1. Set aside one day a week or evening where you turn off tablets, smart phones and laptops and spend quality time together.
2. Allocate specific time to use social media and stick to it.
3. On days or evenings out put the phone away, turn it off or keep it on silent.
4. Do not use tablets, laptops or phones in your bed or bedroom.
5. Remember that your relationship is special and unique and you can't replace lost time spent on social media.
6. Turn your phone on silent for one hour a day and breathe!
7. Focus your energy on your partner and not social media platforms.
8. On holidays turn your phone off or allocate time and space to return calls and emails.
9. Bed is for sleeping, resting or sex.
10. Have fun and enjoy reconnecting with your partner.

Do you find yourself spending more and more time on social media sites?  I invite you to implement the tips into your life and notice how your relationship and sex life becomes much alive.

What do you think, do you find that social media is impacting your relationship and sex life?  I would love to hear your thoughts.

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