Love in time of conflict

At times it's natural for relationships to enter conflict.

You are two individual people with your own past history, hurts, stories and way of being in the world. Two people who are united in love and togetherness. Two people who also have a very different way of experiencing the world.

If conflict and hurt becomes common place it can be difficult to be re-united in love. To ignite the magic between you both. To come together and talk kindly, honestly and with truth.

I wanted to share this beautiful meditation with you by John O'Donohue called Love in Time of Conflict.

When the gentleness between you hardens 
And you fall out of your belonging with each other, 
May the depths you have reached hold you still.

When no true word can be said, or heard,
And you mirror each other in the script of hurt,
When even the silence has become raw and torn,
May you hear again an echo of your first music.

When the weave of affection starts to unravel 
And anger begins to sear the ground between you,
Before this weather of grief invites
The black seed of bitterness to find root,
May your souls come to kiss.

Now is the time for one of you to be gracious,
To allow a kindness beyond thought and hurt,
Reach out with sure hands
To take the chalice of your love,
And carry it carefully through this echoless waste
Until this winter pilgrimage leads you
Towards the gateway to spring.

Linda Connors at The Relationship Specialises in helping men and women overcome sexual issues and also live with more loving-kindness in their life and relationships.

We also provide Couple Counselling and Coaching.