PRINCE hARRY AND bREAKING THE cYCLE

Prince Harry has come out as saying, as he pieced his father's life together, and gained more understanding of his father's experiences, how these were passed down to him, how he felt about that, and how aware he is, to create positive change, so that his own children have a different experience.

Prince Harry's identifying the legacies families carry from one generation to the next, and without blame, and with beautiful eloquence, expressed his desire that for him and his family, things are going to be different.

These patterns and energies and experiences we are exposed to, to some extent take in, and often repeat, are legacy burdens we inherit. 

As individuals, couples, families, we can unburden ourselves, give back these patterns, energies, and behaviors to where they have come, and begin to experience new possibilities in ourselves, as we become freer - and this allows us  greater authentic and more real attunement and connection with our core, of who we truly are, as separate from what we have been carrying from our parents, and they from theirs, which was passed down to us.

We can emerge more aware, more whole, more connected with ourselves, our partner, and our children - and they with us.

In therapy, this takes time, and their are specific processes to help with unburdening the legacies we inherit, healing ourselves, and bringing a more compassionate and aware way of parenting to ourselves, our partner, and our children.

The ideal is for a couple to create a model of love, of two people working well together, resolving and repairing conflicts, finding a life path and meaning together, with powerful communication skills, which create greater closeness as well as self-empowerment for ourselves, our partner, and our children - for all concerned - so our children can inherit more of our gifts, and these too, can be passed down from generation to generation.

John Donlon, Family Therapist and Relationship Coach