The most important ingredient to make your relationship work

Love. Love is a powerful force in life, love and relationships. Yet many of us simply do not know how to deeply love and be loved.

Many choose to make relationships their source of happiness. They have expectations that it's their partner's responsibility to make them happy.

Or they only choose to love their partner only when they are fulfilling their needs, doing what they want them to do and behaving in a certain way which keeps them feeling safe, loved and secure.

Others may simply shower their partner with love, always putting them first, their happiness is more important then their own lives. This is a needy type of love.

That's not true love. For real love is unconditional. Real love is a place when you truly love yourself, your partner and you allow yourself be loved. This is the dance of love, which allows love to flow in and out.

Let me tell you a story.

There once was a young women who didn't love herself and she certainly didn't let others love her back. She choose partners that complimented her view of herself. They used her, wouldn't commit, and treated her like she treated herself.

One day she woke up and began a journey of loving herself, learning how to love others and learning how to be loved. 

Then she met her a man who loved her unconditionally. At first it was a rocky relationship, for she rejected his love. However bit by bit she allowed this man into her heart and she discovered the true meaning of love.

This story is my story and the man is of course John! Our journey is still continuing, and as we grow individually and together our relationship is becoming even more powerful, loving and magical in ways I never imagined.

Love is the foundation of our relationship, indeed any relationship. From that place you discover the gift of each other, how to be in a relationship, how to support each other, and to communicate and also how to deal with differences. How to make a wonderful, loving and adventurous life together!

Is love missing in your relationship?