Many couples that come to work with us at the Heart of Relationships after working unsuccessfully with other couple counsellors and relationship coaches. They feel frustrated and worried that their relationship hasn't seen the changes that they wanted to happen, they are still fighting and arguing and going around in a cycle of anger, love, frustration and even loneliness at times. However they are still hopefully that they can overcome their issues to find a new loving way forward.
This is how we can help - we provide a space for you to do just that as a London couple counsellor, relationship coach and communication expert.
Space seems to imply nothingness, but when I say the space to change - you may have noticed when people talk, they talk over each other, each one trying to get their own point, their own partial view, across to the other. If we're not heard we raise our voice, perhaps with the thought that if we speak louder, are angrier, that will carry our message through. And sometimes it does.
More often what happens is that after an argument people process what has happened a bit, but then come back to you with more reasons and justifications for the way the are feeling, or what they are doing - even if what they're doing seems cruel or destructive. When this happens couples can feel at a loss as to how to move forwards.
At the Heart of Relationships, imagine someone sitting with both of you, who is trained to listen - who has trained not just to listen with their ears but their heart and mind and body to resonate with what you are saying and enter deeply into your world, who is totally receptive and just wants to really understand you.
Now imagine this person sitting in with the two of you, listening in this way, magnifying what you are saying in front of your partner - and teaching your partner to listen to you in the same undefended, receptive, totally accepting and deep way.
And imagine your partner willingly do this - as they want a better relationship and out of real love for themselves and for you..
This is part of what I mean when I say I give you the space to change - it's much more than space - although you can feel it in the air, and there are explicit suggestions I make to help you and your partner along in this space - with these qualities and this dynamic where you are both unfolding and coming together, real shifts and movement can and inevitably takes place when couples come to The Heart of Relationships.
If and when you are ready - this is what I want for you - that you can use this space to create a better relationship and take what you do to create a better life.
And this is just the beginning. We will share even more powerful, clarifying and empowering relationship building tools which put into your hands the abilities to change - and walk with you on a step by step process to do that - as you implement those changes into the heart of your relationship so you come together as a couple and work together as powerful partnership.
The issues you face are not a negative road-block but the positive opportunities to make your lives better.
Ready to take the next step?
If you want to stop arguing in a way which you don't feel heard and on issues where you don't feel together - and come into a space where you are heard, and hear each other - a space where you come closer together for the things you both want in your relationship, call John on 0800 024 8647 or Linda on 0753 421 3557 to speak about how you can transform your situation today.
THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS International Relationship Experts John Donlon and Linda Connors have over 30 experience between them. They offer powerful and life changing relationship couple counselling and personal development programmes. They work with individuals and couples in the UK, America, Europe and Australia. If you are in relationship crisis are ready to take the first step into saving your relationship you can contact us on 0800 024 86 47.
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