When Lilly and James came to us their relationship was at breaking point. Arguments resulted in them turning away from each other more and more. Resentment was growing. And this they said was their last chance.
Often when people talk, they talk over each other, and even before the other person has finished speaking, they have something in their mind they want to say. Really listening to the other person, really being present, means letting the other person speak, getting into their world, their feelings, their thoughts, seeing the world from their perspective - and understanding.
This is exactly what experiencing communication in one of our sessions is. And it works both ways!
When both people do this in turn, instead of turning couples away from each other, words can build a bridge and connection of understanding and appreciation, which goes deeper than what the couple may be talking about - to really seeing and appreciating who the other person is.
Sometimes this has not happened for a long time. We give couples the opportunity for this to happen very quickly. We set up boundaries and guidelines which absolutely ensure mutual communication happens, in a way which is kind, light, sometimes playful, respectful of the other person's world and feelings, and above all allowing sharing in your relationship to come to the fore.
In this way couples work with each others' differences to build a really strong relationship, rather than allowing differences to pull their relationship apart.
If you would like to know more about how working with your differences can create a really strong relationship, helping you to turn things around, and see things in a new way, please call 07960 214 336.
THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS International Relationship Experts John Donlon and Linda Connors have over 30 experience between them. They offer powerful and life changing relationship couple counselling and personal development programmes. They work with individuals and couples in the UK, America, Europe and Australia. If you are in relationship crisis are ready to take the first step into saving your relationship you can contact us on 0800 024 86 47.
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