Turning towards Each Other

Couples sometimes ignore each others emotional needs, out of mindlessness rather than malice

The first step in turning towards each other is simply to be aware of how crucial these mundane moments are, not only to your marriage's stability, but to its ongoing sense of romance. For many couples just realizing that they shouldn't take their everyday interactions for granted makes an enormous difference in their relationship.

Remind yourself that being helpful to each other will do more for the strength and passion of your relationship than a two week holiday in the Bahamas.

Ignoring your partners emotional needs can also lead you to ignoring appreciating the gifts of what they are doing for you in the world, and who they are.

Being mindful can change your experience of yourself, your relationship - and magnify and expand your life - together.

Life is not about what you have, but about how you live, because how you live your life - and how you live your relationship - is what you create, and out of what you create, you can have anything.

Getting your thoughts in order - being present, living with appreciation - you become the author of your own life and relationship.

Getting your thoughts out of order, living without appreciation, living without being present, living without turning towards each other - can become a much bigger source of lack - the lack of creating a beautiful relationship - the possibility of which has been there all the time.

Too often couples come to us only when they have gone down the wrong road for so long.

We help you focus on yourselves and each other in ways which work.

And in turning towards each other in small ways, you can expand your lives in the biggest of ways - magnify your joy and your presence, and begin to work to create an amazing life and relationship.

Call 0800 024 8647 or 07960 214 336 for help in changing your relationship today.

John Donlon is a couple counsellor and relationship coach and has helped many individuals and couples change and improve their relationships.