I wanted to offer a few orienting tips which may be helpful to you and your partner working as a partnership together financially, emotionally, practically, psychologically and spiritually.
Money, income, earnings, and expenditure can be really important, especially if money is tight, or one person is earning more than the other.
It's also very important to take a step back, see how money issues work and are resolved really successfully in life (which doesn't necessarily mean having lots of money - or else people who are poor could never be so happy or blessed with each other and generous to strangers! Or people who are very rich or actually doing okay could ever be in such want and unhappiness with themselves and in the world!).
It may sound a strange thing to say when talking about money - it may even seem unrelated - but when it comes down to it, it can be absolutely essential in how you handle money, is your attitude and your commitment to your partner and the relationship.
If we are going to talk about money, underlying this, one of the things we stress at The Heart of Relationships, is the power and value of commitment.
Couples who integrate the wisdom of commitment to each other first, valuing each others' fulfillment and shared goals - start in a place where they are already secure and security helps them to thrive as individuals and as a couple together.
Working as a team of course includes working with financial and practical issues.
But before working on the practical issue of money, couples who work on a new level of intimacy, understanding, trust and co-operation, as all levels are connected - have the underlying core attitudes to support relationship building and have the keys to success in many other areas, including money.
And in it's place this wisdom of working together as a team - The Heart of Relationships Couple Counselling Program helps couples come to live well on every level together, emotionally, practically, physically and spiritually, and through integrating elements of life coaching and mentoring we really empower you on a practical realistic level to soar and live your dreams.
Because money is frequently related to Insecurity, dealing with insecurity is important
We can help you transform insecurity which you may bring to the relationship and have on your own into security through working together.
Bringing individual issues in couple counselling means your partner can support you in a very special way.
So we can deal with the presenting issues - and help you solve things at this level, and we can also help you solve things at a core level.
Coming to the real core of the issues you are working with, which may include issues from your childhood and life experience, which may have created insecurity in a deeper personal way, we can help you to become stronger as individuals - and as we work with you together - as a couple.
This is one way we work which makes the Heart of Relationships couple counselling program so special.
From working in tandem means you can more readily build your life, and your dreams, together, and become truly rich.
In fact we help you to start with all your resources, skills, talents, things which draw you together, so that you approaching issues from a position of strength. You can start with richness, and that's a very different place from being in want - and expecting material things to answer that want. Which is what sometimes happens when insecurity and money becomes a focus - and impacts the relationship with back-biting, argument, and accounting; instead of focusing on generating what you really want, on all levels.
In our experience, when you start with your resources, with courage, faith, and positive well-formed outcomes, this is beginning from a position of strength.
And in the words of one life-coach, this is "living from the inside out." And beginning with your resources, talents, skills, all the wonderful things you have going for you, allows you better to start in a position of strength and love to creating the life you want.
If you have all the ingredients of a good relationship, which include self-awareness, fun, common loves and passions, is very important.
Making peace with every aspect of your relationship is also very important. And to make peace together as a financial partnership is very important.
Not making peace - in any area of your life or relationship - literally means being at war.
And even in one area of your life, whatever that is, being at war in one area and at peace and joy in others, can hurt and cause pain in your relationship.
Why Commitment is a good place to begin
Couples who start from a place commitment to each other and for building their lives start at a distinct advantage.
For this reason, before you start to deal with any issues, we would like to see your commitment to working as a team?
Commitment to working as a team together is hugely important to the how you can approach and deal with things.
And frequently it's the approach to things, almost to everything, not the thing itself, which is the problem. And by the same token it's also how you can both approach things which leads to positive, life-enhancing solutions.
If you start with commitment to each other and to your relationship you are already half-way to success!
Your commitment helps you maximize implementing the practical benefits of The Heart of Relationships couple counselling programme into your relationship and your lives.
If you want to transform your life for the better, you can build a Bridge through which you can connect with each other and open out the highways of your life to thrive as people.
As the real riches in life are understanding, appreciation, generosity, faith and courage, we help you to begin in a place of riches and security to building a life together, rather insecurity and want.
Our experience as Coaches means that time and time again as couples approach sessions in this way you will experience yourselves working and enjoying together really well.
We give you the foundation and building blocks to do the work together
Whatever problems you arrive with, as we support you in developing and practicing the right attitude and approach to dealing with issues, you will find you are coming from a position of strength. From here you can face any insecurities in a really healthy way, so that you can begin with who you are and all you have - again instead of lack or want.
Having and knowing the key essential ingredients, the right understanding, attitudes and learning the very foundations to relationship building, sets you and your partner upon the road to succeeding. From despair, arguments, fighting, and misunderstandings, which set you apart, you can learn how to come together and really get creative enjoying fun, playing, passion and building your life together.
In this way, you can come with any issue you want, and we will help you deal not just with the issues, such a finances and practicalities, but also the core issues, and set you on the road to successfully creating the life you want, and making it work practically, spiritually and outwards on every level, living from the inside out!
Contact us today on 0800 024 8647.
John Donlon Couple Counsellor and Relationship Coach
THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS International Relationship Experts John Donlon and Linda Connors have over 30 experience between them. They offer powerful and life changing relationship couple counselling and personal development programmes. They work with individuals and couples in the UK, America, Europe and Australia. If you are in relationship crisis are ready to take the first step into saving your relationship you can contact us on 0800 024 86 47.
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